Therefore, as God’s chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience. Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you. And over all these virtues put on love, which binds them all together in perfect unity.

Colossians 3:12-14— NIV

Friendships are a precious gift from God. True friends reflect His love, support us in tough times, and celebrate our victories. Mindfulness, being in the present moment, can help us nurture these vital bonds in ways that reflect Christ’s love. Friends also provide love, support, and companionship throughout life. But like any meaningful relationship, friendships require effort and intentionality to flourish. One valuable tool to nurture healthy friendships is the concept of mindfulness.

Why Mindfulness Matters in Friendship

Presence— Mindfulness helps us to be fully present with our friends, listening without judgment and offering genuine attention. This gift of presence strengthens connection and trust.

Understanding— When we practice non-judgmental awareness of our thoughts and feelings, we better understand ourselves. This self-awareness helps us see our friends more clearly and compassionately.

Conflict Resolution— Disagreements are inevitable. Mindfulness can help us approach conflict with calm hearts and open minds instead of reacting from a place of hurt or anger.

Stronger connections— Mindfulness enhances our ability to listen deeply, be empathetic, and engage with our friends more meaningfully. This allows us to build trust and intimacy.

Greater self-awareness— Mindfulness helps us understand our own needs and emotions within a friendship, enabling us to communicate our boundaries in a clear and healthy manner.

Spiritual growth— God calls us to love our neighbors as ourselves (Mark 12:31). By practicing mindfulness with our friends, we deepen our connection with God’s love and extend that love to others.

Tips for Practicing Mindfulness in Friendship

Undivided attention— When spending time with friends, put away distractions like your phone. Be truly present with them.

Active listening— Focus on genuinely hearing and understanding your friend’s words, not just waiting for your turn to speak.

Compassionate inquiry— If your friend is struggling, ask open-ended questions and offer support without trying to “fix” their problems.

Mindful conflict resolution— When disagreements arise, take a moment to breathe and calm yourself before reacting. Try to see the situation from your friend’s perspective.

Mindful Listening— Truly listen to your friend without formulating your response in advance. Give them your undivided attention—put down your phone and make eye contact.

Pause Before Reacting— If a friend says something hurtful, pause before responding. A few deep breaths and a silent prayer can make a difference.

Express Gratitude— Regularly express appreciation for your friends. Let them know precisely how their presence enriches your life. A heartfelt note or a simple “thank you” goes a long way.

“We Disagree, Now What?”

Disagreements in friendships challenge us to practice Christ-like love. Here’s how mindfulness guides us.

  1. Take a break: If emotions run high, step away from the conversation and come back when cooler heads can prevail.
  2. “I” statements: Express your feelings using “I” statements (e.g., “I feel hurt when…”). Avoid blaming and focus on the impact of the situation on you.
  3. Find common ground: Look for areas where you agree, even if the disagreement persists. Remember, you can love your friend even when you don’t see eye-to-eye.
  4. Seek Understanding: Try understanding your friend’s perspective before defending your position. Ask open-ended questions and listen with empathy.
  5. Acknowledge Emotions: Validate your friend’s feelings, even if you disagree. “I understand this is important to you” or “I can see why you’d feel that way” opens the door for a healthy resolution.

Journaling Prompts

  1. How can I be a more mindful listener for my friends?
  2. Recall a recent disagreement with a friend. How could I have approached the situation differently with mindfulness?
  3. What qualities do I appreciate most in my friends?
  4. When do I find it challenging to be mindful in my friendships?
  5. How can I show my friends I’m genuinely listening to them?
  6. How can I extend grace to my friends during disagreements?

Takeaway

Mindfulness in friendships helps us walk more closely with Jesus. By being fully present with our friends, practicing compassion, and approaching disagreements with a humble heart, we reflect the love of Christ and deepen some of life’s most precious connections. 

Mindfulness in friendship is an ongoing journey. We foster more robust, meaningful connections reflecting God’s love by being present, listening deeply, and extending compassion.

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4 Comments

  1. i so appreciate when a busy friend closes down her phone, throws it in her bag, and focuses on our precious and often rare 1-1 time together. it sends a message i love!

  2. strengthwithdignity

    The gift of presence is a huge part of our mindfulness and intentionality in friendships, Paula.

  3. These are fantastic tips for building better relationships. So much of the time we simply want people to be actively present with us, and that is enough. Yet we often find it so hard to do. It’s crazy. I’ll share this with our One Word FB group this week.

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