Deconstructing Our Worldly Selves

Have you ever stopped to consider the beautiful paradox presented in John 17:15? Jesus prays to the Father, saying, “I do not ask that you take them out of the world, but that you keep them from the evil one.” We are called to be in the world, to engage with our communities, and to fulfill our purposes. Yet, we are simultaneously reminded that we are fundamentally not of it

This truth struck me recently, as the word decondition had been on my mind. This made me think about how, as we mature in Christ, He begins a beautiful process of deconditioning us from the ways of the world.

Your Dictionary describes the word decondition this way: To alter or undo (a conditioned response).

I find the concept of Jesus” deconditioning” us from the world fascinating. Before coming to Him, we were shaped by worldly values, desires, and actions. We chased after things that promised happiness but ultimately left us empty. Money, status, things, pleasure—these were often the idols that, as I can see now, consumed me. What about you?

But Jesus, in His infinite wisdom, gently deconstructs these worldly implants.

This deconstruction can be uncomfortable. It might mean letting go of habits that once defined us, reevaluating our priorities, and even confronting how we idolize worldly things. But within this discomfort lies incredible growth. Jesus, with gentle hands and a loving heart, dismantles the scaffolding of the world and replaces it with a foundation built on His teachings.

This process isn’t about making us miserable or depriving ourselves. It’s about setting us free. Free from the burdens of worldly expectations, free from the emptiness of chasing things that ultimately don’t satisfy. It’s about opening our hearts to a more fulfilling and purposeful way of living.

This process can be challenging. It can be a struggle to let go of old habits and ingrained mindsets. But as we spend time in prayer, studying scripture, and surrounding ourselves with fellow believers, the Holy Spirit empowers us to break free. We begin to crave the things of God – His righteousness, His peace, and His joy (Romans 14:17).

A Christ-Centered Transformation

He replaces our thirst for fleeting pleasures with a deep well of joy that comes from knowing Him. He replaces our need for external validation with the unshakeable confidence of being His child. He replaces our anxieties about the future with the peace that surpasses all understanding (Philippians 4:7).

But when we surrender to Jesus, He begins a beautiful transformation work. He gently exposes the emptiness of our worldly pursuits and reveals a more fulfilling path. He deconditions us from seeking validation from others and redirects our desires towards Him. The things that once held so much power over us start to lose their grip.


Maturing in Christ is a lifelong journey. There will be times when the world’s voices seem loud, and the deconstruction feels overwhelming. But remember, you are not alone. The Holy Spirit resides within you, guiding and strengthening you every step (Romans 8:26). Don’t be afraid to seek out a supportive Christian community where you can grow alongside others who understand the challenges and joys of this transformation.

Don’t be discouraged if you find yourself slipping back into old patterns. The journey of deconstruction is a lifelong one. What matters most is keeping your eyes fixed on Jesus and continuing to seek Him. The more we immerse ourselves in His presence, the more the world loses its hold on us.

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  1. Beautiful. Yes, you’re right that it’s not about being miserable, it’s about finding something SO MUCH BETTER than the world offers. It’s an upgrade. 🙂 Another bonus aside from the benefits that you mentioned of letting Jesus “deconstruct” (or change) you is that you get love, support, and peace that the world is just not cut out to give! Visiting from Talking About it Tuesdays.

    1. Stopping in again with a thank you for sharing this post with me and my readers at the Will Blog for Comments #34 linkup. We hope to see you next week at #35, too, sharing more posts, old or new. Have a great week!

      1. You’re very welcome Jen 🙂

    2. Thank you so much. And I like what you added. You are so right.

  2. Thank you so much for sharing with us at Talking About it Tuesdays!

    1. It’s my pleasure Joanne.

  3. Beautifully written, Paula. This >> “But Jesus, in His infinite wisdom, gently deconstructs these worldly implants.” Yes, He works gently and patiently and repeatedly with us. I am so very grateful for the way He changes me.

    1. Thanks so much for your kind words Joanne. I’m so grateful for the way he changes me too.

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